I was hurt and this time, deeply hurt. I decided to report him to God as I sometimes do, but this time I was not going to succumb to the instructions of being patient and more loving. I spoke in my heart to God, ‘I have had enough and I am going to show him the stuff I am made of.’
Then God said, “Yes! Show him”. The answer came as a shock to me; I thought that couldn’t have been the Spirit of God. Again I heard him say, ‘show him the stuff you are made of, I am the stuff you are made of; I am in you and you are in me, you are patient and kind, slow to anger and forgiving…….’
Then I realized that the stuff I am made of is not the old nature that was dead but the one that now lives in Christ Jesus. I was reminded his words in the book of James.
James 3:10-12 (MSG) says. “My friends, this can’t go on. A spring doesn’t gush fresh water one day and blackish the next, does it? Apple trees don’t bear strawberries, do they? Raspberry bushes don’t bear apples, do they? You’re not going to dip into polluted mud hole and get a cup of clear, cool water, are you?”
No river flows sweet and bitter water at the same time. If I am indeed God’s, the water that flows from me will be sweet and bring blessings to humanity especially my spouse.
God is good and I am connected to Him; I am a good thing. I was not made a help meet to glorify self but God and through him alone can I accomplish my purpose. His grace is always sufficient for me as long as my source remains in him.
Eve was made a help meet to Adam to bring glory to God but she left the presence of God to stand in the presence of the devil for a conversation. Her source changed so also did her water; everyone that partook became cursed. Humanity today suffers the grave consequence.
King Ahab as a king in Israel had a commission from God to lead the people on the path of righteous living; being just and upright, walking in the fear of God. God’s commands to all Israel including the kings, was to marry from the people with the same covenant. King Ahab married Jezebel the daughter of Ethbaal king of Sodonians; a woman with a strange covenant different from God (2 Kings 11:1-3).
As a help meet to Ahab she ministered to all his needs with the stuff she was made of. She satisfied many of her husband’s lustful desires. King Ahab had coveted another man’s field called Naboth, and since Naboth refused to give him his land, he became grumpy and refused to eat.
When Jezebel found out the source of his sadness she arranged false witnesses against Naboth which led to his death while King Ahab took over the field. Jezebel protected her husband and self from the rebuke of God by killing thousands of God’s prophets who would have told her the truth.
She also brought an alien god to God’s temple and won the heart of the people through deceit.
As a result of her action the people of God were brought to confusion not knowing the true God. They served other gods and sacrificed their children to them; as long as the people served her god, she thought, there will be no rebellion against the king.
But she was wrong; she destroyed her present and failed to secure the future. She perished with her husband and her children were all given to the sword.
Jezebel was a help meet quite alright but you and I know the type of help she rendered; a help that propelled Ahab into fulfilling the exact opposite of his purpose and helped destroy his life and that of his entire family and generation after. (1 kings 16:20-33, 1 kings 21:1-27, 2 kings 9:8,)
Abigail, the wife of Nabal, on the other hand saved her entire household and preserved David, the future king of Israel from sin with her source, God. God had blessed Nabal greatly but he refused to share with David who had watched over his livestock, he called him a rebel; but Abigail saw things differently.
She did not assess David by his present position but had understanding of the thought, purpose and plan of God for him. Abigail met David on his way to destroying the entire household of Nabal, gave him gifts and provisions; encouraged him to leave the situation to God and focus on the great future before him.
This wouldn’t have been possible if her source was not in God. She became a blessing to her household and community even when her husband was viewed differently. The word of God was her guide therefore she became a good help meet. (1 Samuel 25:2-35)
‘and God blessed them and said to them, be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth, subdue it [using all its vast resources in the service of God and man]; …….. Genesis 1:28 (AMP)
The purpose of being a help meet is not to gratify self but to first of all bring glory and honour to God and in so doing, blessing humanity. Being a help meet does not mean helping your partner to achieve his desires when His desires are contrary to Gods desires and glory. Remember to obey your source first which is God.
I Love You & God Bless You